Home

Timeline:

• September 28, 2014 I suspected the start of infidelity (later proven to be correct) between my spouse and Jeff Howard. I was gaslit to ensure I would believe the lies told by both parties that nothing happened.
• May 2018 Jeff was caught by USSTRATCOM Network Security sending/receiving large quantities of emails to/from my wife. USSTRATCOM considered it an “emotional affair” due to lack of evidence for which he was reprimanded with a one to two week suspension. My wife promised that nothing physical had taken place. They were both told to cease all communication.
• April 1^st, 2026, I discovered the remnants of a Google text chat between my wife & Jeff that Jeff initiated August 2020. The only two comments left in the chat thread were from Jeff on March 16^th, 2026 stating “Ok” and “I’ve been expecting this”. My wife had deleted all of her comments where she finally broke off the affair. 
• Soon after, I confronted my wife and passed evidence to Jeff’s wife via email and text message of the communication/betrayal of trust. Between Jeff’s wife & myself, we got to the ground truth on the timeline of the multiple affairs:
  • Physical affair (#1) started September 28, 2014 as I expected, continuing until caught by USSTRATCOM in May 2018.
  • Jeff reached back out in spring 2019 when the physical affair picked back up (Affair #2) until late fall 2019.
  • No communication from the end of 2019 until my wife reached back out in 2022 after finally realizing Jeff attempted to communicate in August 2020.
  • Affair #3 that tarted in 2022 was emotional as it was sharing of pictures but no physical contact (sharing nude photos, flirty messages talking about sexual desires, primarily by Jeff). This continued until 2024-ish when my wife finally stopped sharing intimate photos. Jeff continued to share nude photos sporadically until they cut off all communication on March 16^th, 2026.

End Results:

• Both myself and his spouse are attempting to work through this enormous breach of betrayal and trust. I’ve had to go on multiple medications. I’ve now been diagnosed with severe depression, moderate anxiety, and PTSD related to the affairs. I now require a personal counselor and we’re attending marriage counseling. My wife also has a personal counselor. Jeff’s wife is having similar issues for the same reasons. Jeff is required to attend marriage counseling and personal counseling.
• I no longer trust men around my wife (or vice versa). I also have no interest in any new friendships that involve other men.
• Since Jeff has a security clearance working for an unnamed General Defense Information Technology contracting company during the final period of the affair(s), I reported it to his company’s Security Officers. An affair indicates a lack of integrity and moral  character, which is considered to be a security concern for those with security clearances as they can be blackmailed if the affair is hidden (as it always is and was in this case). Unfortunately, his company also lacks both integrity and moral character as they replied back with “We have reviewed the situation and determined that no [company] policy is implicated. We will not be taking any action and consider this matter closed.” The evidence its back this up is available in email form.

Lessons Learned:

• If you have no morals or integrity, his General Defense Information Technology company will hire you in an instant and keep you employed and support you during your affair. 
• If you have any females in your family, keep them away from Jeff Howard.